Dreams Come My Way...

I am currently reading an article from Yoga Journal concerning becoming a yoga teacher and some things you will need and want to take into consideration if it's something you might want to do.  Reading it I am acknowledging that it is something that I have wanted to do for the better part of my life now.  However, I don't practice everyday, or even once and week, and while I have several books about yoga, and of course full access to Yoga Journal online to look up poses, a may, block, and even a strap I believe I just don't do it.  Being pregnant, exercise and staying mobile is very important, but I've neglected that even.  Today I want to move away from these feelings of idleness (at least physically) and move more into caring for myself holistically.

Lately I have been devoting several hours to my store to get it back running online in a different venue (both of them), and while that's a great use of all this "spare time" it only satisfies one area of my life.  I need to practice more moderation across the board.  I have gotten much better about my self-care and applying this principle (instead of powerhousing through several of one project I've slowed down to a smaller amount and for longer projects I've been doing my best to finish each one of the many I already have started and have gotten through a number of them already.)

I have finally gotten my profiles where I wanted them with my being a reader and a healer on LivePerson, I have added a lot of information to my stores and their sites, including new product ideas and better pictures as well.  I have been maintaining their Facebook profiles as well as Myspace, and Tweet every time I make a major change about my stores, including hashtags and links.

I am well on my way to being precisely where I want to be, just need to keep on truckin'!

Detachment

I'm reading through an article I received through Yoga Journal about detachment. While the article's email was talking about in relation to the holiday season I'm finding that it's something I really want to cultivate in my life right now. Not the first time I've decided this, but hopefully this will be that "third time's a charm" moment.

I find myself very dissatisfied with a lot of things going on in my life right now and find it increasingly difficult to remain positive about any of it. While I know that feelings of gloom and resentment only doom me to feeling more of the same, I find the slope sticky and slippery to climb out of the "hole" that it's creating. I try to talk about it, but generally all that does is make me angrier, it doesn't really work through the feelings or get to the bottom of them - it just puts the energy out there even more.

I don't want to be unhappy or nitpick everything in my life into oblivion, but I don't know what else to do to solve it...back to reading the article.

Falling For...?

I've been doing a lot of thinking and I find that frequently I settle for things and am not happy in my romantic relationships and yet I am unsure why. Some deliberation has caused me to suspect that it centers partially around my expectations. That I have perhaps created some "ideal" as to what I want that is incongruent with my reality. Eg. Falling for a literal "dark knight to steal me away" when there are none in this time period.

Where I've gotten these constructs from, and why I have held onto them when I live in a place and time that doesn't support them I don't understand. I really wish I knew...

Thankful - Joyful - Grateful

This season is full of so much sorrow for me, bad memories and unpleasantries that I do not wish to remember or face. However, I am not the only one who feels this way as I know many are stressed and feel bogged down around the holiday season - a time that should be full of laughter, joy, and celebration but often is full of stress, dampening down any real joy we feel in this day and age.

Starting with Thanksgiving and sales for Christmas leads to hectic times as families and individuals rush to get ready and do last minute things for the season. Rarely do we take the time to reflect and introspect (what Winter is about), or take a moment away from the hustle and bustle to really be thankful (any holiday's message) for our experiences and what we do have.

Time here and there someone will become reflective about the season, though it's not a guarantee to stay in their mind year to year as so many people are "out of sync" with the changes we go through and the true meaning of these cycles.

So today I'm taking some time to think about my life and what there is to be thankful and joyful for - for without celebrating, appreciating, and acknowledging that which we have, why should expect to receive more?

Things I am Thankful/Joyful/Grateful for...

• a healthy baby
• a place to stay
• food in my pantry & fridge
• caring friends I can trust
• a loving partner who is willing to dote on me
• safety
• opportunities to succeed
• lessons that lead to growth

I was urged to start this private blog by a friend and fellow healer and though I have severely slacked off on keeping it up, it's still going and I'm grateful for that!

Wants & Concerns

I found these words and want to put them out there...

" 'I need someone who will [always] be there for me. Who will stand by and not judge me and allow me to be myself. If I need help, they'll give it, if not they will simply exist supportively. There will be no criticism of who/what I am, but a loving acceptance and understanding.' "

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...at one point while I was living in Maryland I became very, nay EXTREMELY, body conscious. And while I didn't really gain a lot of weight where it went and how I looked bothered me. It didn't help that Donovan picked on me about it and it finally got to the point where I decided to give some diet pills a chance. Just to get off the "excess" and then stop.

Little did I know how they worked or what they'd do to me.

Long story short - they increased my heart rate to quite honestly a very dangerous level (my normal resting heart rate = ~ 60 to 62) it was upwards of 184. Needless to say it messed with my breathing due to my short, shallow breaths I started almost panting. Such an ??? severely reduced the quality (and amount) of oxygen I was getting.

We were downstairs on the couch for whatever reason (sex oriented) he was "mad" at me. I started to get upset because I had done all to please him and for some other stupid reason all this fueled a panic attack which honestly came on in a "slow" fashion but also wouldn't let up.

It got to the point where I had to go to the ER.

I got so scared that with my breathing being so messed up I would lie down in bed and stop breathing and no one would know.

P.S. When you can't breathe, lying down makes it worse!!! And part of the reason I didn't want you to leave was for the same reason I was afraid originally and you "leaving me" made it that much worse.

Signs

It's been awhile, but part of what brings me to write today is the finding of a praying mantis in my kitchen sink. With all of the change and tumult it seemed to me an important sign worth looking into and lo and behold I was right. The Praying Mantis speaks about stillness and silence, with all the change I take it that this is meant to point to what I need to be doing right now and how to proceed forward and through these issues. Talking has not been helping. Words have been misconstrued, arguments have ensued on a constant basis and many a harsh word have been exchanged. So perhaps it is really time to step back and away from the situation to gain better perspective and to really sit with the problem(s) and work through them slowly and carefully instead of rushing into them and just stirring up more problems.

It is evident by my health that I have been putting way too much stress on my body, but it comes time to realize what this is doing and the toll it takes and what it means. It makes me think that I ought to walk the path of "Death" and clear out/harvest away those things from my life that I no longer need or want.

Reflection

I saw him last night and it was hard, I felt the emotions and they swarmed over me like ants. I cried, he cried, we held each other. But for me, it wasn't enough. It wasn't enough because the love wasn't the same, I had already let go and a big part of me had moved on. Our love wasn't pure anymore, but tainted and stained with the negativities of our past together. I believe that if something is meant to be between us, then it will be, but all in all that time is not here and now.

With "Derby" I am happy, he shows me his affection in all ways all of the time. He sits and talks with me and understands me. There is no strangeness between the two of us. It does not feel strained or awkward to communicate with one another and there is a definite shared empathy. It is unlike any other relationship I've been in.

This is the beginning of my new life, and I want to move away from the old, the things I do not want in my life, the hurts, pains, and regrets that keep holding me back and move forward into that bright, beautiful future that I long for.

I'm going to start reading Wayne Dyer's "The Power of Intention" tonight, and steadily go through his other works, maybe even making notes here and there.